Very interesting discussion.
As a (not v.good) player of real tables, and someone who's watched 'Pinball 101' (get it in App Store if you have iPhone/Touch) I do notice some tables you cannot do the Backhand shots you would on a RL table.
Mind you I've yet to upgrade to
VP9-Yikes !!! - I will, I will

As a technonoob can I ask if flipper settings can be easily changed in
VP8? And where I'd go to do this?
I wanna try Noah's settings as I know he's had some truly legendary players try his setup.
Cheers, Andy
You absolutely must dump
VP8 and use
VP9. The physics engine is much better. It's not even close.
I've solved most my flipper delays using Noah's suggestion of moving from micro-switches to leaf switches. After this, I readjusted most my flipper settings to be back to slower and more powerful. The reason for this is because there is less oblique needed to hit the center shots and it feels much more like a real flipper. The oblique setting, when it gets too high (above 5), allows for many impossible shots. I still don't have it all tuned in, but the flipper settings seem better something along the lines of:
Speed: 0.2 <-- Much higher and the ball starts veering towards the edges not up the center. It's odd, I would expect the opposite.
Strength: 0.8 <-- lowering this much more causes the ball to start veering to the sides rather than the center and make backhand shots impossible.
Elasticity: 0.55 <-- This setting isnt that great. Higher and flipper catches become too hard and unrealistic, lower and they're too easy (even at 0.55 they're a bit too easy). I cant get this totally right compared to a real pinball.
Scatter: 0 (Who would want this at anything other than 0??)
Return Strength: 0.05 <-- if this is higher, the flipper flips back in a very unnatural manner and things like post passes become difficult / impossible
Recoil Velocity: 0 <-- this is critical or the ball can cause the flipper to bounce
Power Law: 2
Oblique: 4 <-- It's unfortunate this cannot be 0 and still have the ball move towards the center like a real pinball machine.